rantings of a single girl

I'm 22 so I still keep my age cap fairly conservative, although a friend of mine who is also 22 is currently dating a 40 year old.

I am currently dating someone who is exactly 10 years older than me. My rule is, I won't date someone old enough to have fathered me. I think 10-12 years is the ABSOLUTE max, but I prefer 5-10.

Everyone's acceptable age range is different. I'm comfortable with 12 yrs older but only a couple of years younger. That's just the way I am. I know plenty of women who are comfortable with 10 years younger AND only five years older. It is what is it.

I understand your reservations about dating someone much older than you. I am 21 and I've always dated guys "older" than me, but I have an age cap. 5-10 years older than me is acceptable, but I'd definitely prefer that Mister be closer to 5 than 10. I know that I have no intention of dating someone younger than me...my grandmother was older than both of her husbands, one by 10 years and the other by 15. I think people of the same age range tend together along better - a large age gap just seems forced and desperte in my opinion. At the same time, I understand that when you find love or at least someone who treats you nicely & understands you, you feel compelled to grab him and hold onto him.

I like 5 years on either side of my age. However, the prospect of dating a 24 year old (right out of college!) is kind of icky to me.

I am 22 years old, and I don't feel comfortable talking to guys that are more than 6 years older than me. I don't want anybody younger, because I would be too jealous when I turn 40 and he is only 39, or 38, lol.

Wow. It sounds crazy to write this but... my soon-to-be ex-husband is 15 years older than me. About 6 months after we separated I got me a fwb who is 15 years younger!! We've been friends now for about 4 months (he acts and looks more like he's in his late 20's) I know - it sounds ewww! I am 37.
Yikes.

lildorthyparker - Young and conservative is a good thing. My age range has expanded as I get older, but I never see myself going over 10 years.

Veka - My rule is, I won't date someone old enough to have fathered me. I think that's a good rule.... I can't imagine dating anyone old enough to be my father. Shudder.

Simone Grant - You're right. It is what it is. Everyone has what works for them.

ImABlackPoem - I find myself wary of people with large gaps as well. But I'm talking like Hugh Hefner and his 19 year old girlfriends. That's just for show and money. I don't have any problem with people who are in a serious, committed relationship and are several years apart in age. It's what works for them.

sweetpeabrina - That's why I don't go much younger than a year or two... five years would mean a 22 year old. I'm not sure I want to 'raise' a young boy just getting out into the world.

KAT002 - That makes sense too. I can't imagine being a 60 year old woman and my 30 year old boyfriend is out and about. I'd be seeing green all the time.

snarkygurl - If he's a mature guy who treats you well then good for you. I think age really is just a number... but everyone has a number that is comfortable for them.

I'm a complusive dater, so if I am somewhat interested in something about a guy, whether its his personality, his smile, sense of humor, or even that salt and pepper mix in his hair I'll go out with him. I haven't seriously dated a guy who was beyond his early fourties, but I'm open. I don't think it will end with a love connection if I did, but getting to know people should be fun and free of expectations. Never let people talk you out of whats comfortable for you even if it happens to be comfortable for them.

Prissi

I really feel like age should not matter. It really is just a number. If someone makes you happy then why not be with them. I am a 23 year old girl and I am currently dating a 37 year old guy. The age difference does not bother us one bit and we are extremely happy as a couple and enjoy the same things and want the same things. Everything depends on the two people in the relationship.