I love reading relationship articles. Most of the time they make me giggle because their promises to a better relationship are just down right silly. Or sometimes they'll list things you can do to pep up a relationship. Those suggestions usually make me roll my eyes because the suggestions seem like things you should do if you're into kinky things. I mean really kinky things.
I did run across this article by YourTango.com that I did like: 14 Relationship Mistakes We Wish Women Would Stop Making. I actually agree with all their points. Why? Well, I'll tell you!
1. Thinking that we'll never get over him. We may think that, but we do. Maybe not fully, but enough that we'll get on with lives.
2. Spying. I completely and totally agree with this. This is one thing I can say that I've never, ever done. I think it's stupid and says that you don't trust your significant other. Just don't do it.
3. Think our partners must be interested in everything we do, think, and say. No they don't. I'm not interested in a guy's obsession with Ultimate Frisbee or working on cars. I don't expect him to be interested in needlepoint and baking. So long as you have some things in common, what's wrong with having your own thing?
4. Displacing. I'm totally guilty of this one. I'll always turn an argument about something simple into something big and drastic. It must stop. Now.
5. Expecting too much. I think the idea of 'happily ever after' has been ingrained in too many women's heads. Things will not be picture perfect. You must work at a relationship.
6. Stagnating. Ladies, it's completely okay to ask a guy out. I promise. The world will not stop turning it you do.
7. Slacking. This goes back to #5. Things will not be picture perfect. You must work at a relationship!
8. Isolating. I hate women who isolate their friends once they get into a relationship and then expect their friends to be there for them when the relationship ends. You can have friends and a boyfriend.
9. Fantasizing. No one can make your life better but you. Not a dog or a friend or a man in your life will be able to do that. Sorry Charlie.
10. Using the silent treatment. Another thing I'm guilty of. I have this idea that my guy will be able to read my mind and know exactly what I want him to do, say, or not do. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. If we open our mouths, we'll find the results to be much better than if we don't.
11. Denying. Ignoring a problem won't make it go away. Actually it usually makes it worse because it sits there and festers. Don't let stuff fester. Just open your mouth, use your brain, and solve the problem.
12. Standing alone. It's important to have people in our lives. Friends. Family. A significant other. These people love us and want us to be happy. Allow them to help you if you need it. There is a big difference between being independent and being a stubborn mule.
13. Over-analyzing. Oh I do this. I over-analyze everything. Sometimes it can really get you where it hurts though. Making something out of nothing will usually bring more grief than good. So what if he forgot to bring you flowers on your 3 1/2 week anniversary? It doesn't mean he's sleeping with the next door neighbor.
14. Trying to reinvent the relationship wheel. The same basic mechanics of relationships always have been and always will be the same. Stop trying to control the wheel and let it go.... maybe it'll take you somewhere amazing.
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I agree with these 14 points too. I am definitely guilty of over-analyzing.